Transcending a negative experience can take time, depending on its nature. However, there’s one question that I always ask myself to jump-start the process:
How can I turn this into something good?
Honestly, this is not the question that usually comes to my mind immediately. My go-to one is, “Why me?”. It’s useless and leads nowhere near a resolution. Moreover, it keeps me focused on all my negative emotions without insight.
However, “How can I turn this into something good?” is important because it shifts my emotions.
I no longer dwell on what happened and my negative feelings. Instead, I start thinking about how I can use this situation as an opportunity to grow, learn, and be better and wiser. I feel uplifted. I take control of the situation as I let go of my negative feelings and perception. Mostly, I feel excited about turning something bad into something good.
